As if you didn’t have reason enough for why what you are providing your students is desperately needed for the sake of humanity, here’s another…
Rachel Canning, 18, alleges in her lawsuit that her parents forced her out of their Lincoln Park, New Jersey home, and that she is unable to support herself financially. The lawsuit asks that her parents pay the remaining tuition for her last semester at her private high school, pay her current living and transportation expenses, commit to paying her college tuition and pay her legal fees for the suit she filed against her parents.
Her parents say she left home because she didn’t want to obey their rules.
It’s not bad enough that this girl thinks that she is entitled to all this, but she’s got people (adults!) that are encouraging her to pursue this!
I’m saddened that her parents are the only people in her life that are doing the right thing for her and that there’s countless others willing to take advantage of this ridiculous situation. That is a difficult thing for a parent to do, but she is 18 and doesn’t want to follow the rules so what’s wrong with a little dose of reality?
Who needs to develop courtesy, integrity, perseverance, self-control and indomitable spirit when you can just sue mommy and daddy for what you think you deserve and avoid being responsible for anything.
I could spend hours bitching and complaining about how horrible this is on so many levels, that won’t make any difference or help matters any.
What I like to do when I hear about these types of things (and they seem to be occurring more and more often) is use it as a teaching moment. You better believe my 15 yr. old daughter and I had a conversation about this!
And by “teaching moment”, I’m not talking about trash talking a confused 18 yr old who’s got enough problems, rather it’s a great time to emphasize with your students and your kids things like personal responsibility and what it means to EARN something.
One of the things I do with my kids (even the 5 yr old) is correct them when they start asking me for things other than what they need. Things like toys, electronics, games, etc. They’re not allowed to ask me or their mother if they can “have” these things, they have to ask, “How I can I earn _____?”
The only exceptions are for birthdays and Christmas.
When they earn it, they love and appreciate whatever it is so much more and they start to think twice about what they ask for because they know it’s up to them to get it.
What actions can you take to create an environment around yourself and your school of personal responsibility and self-reliance?
About the Author:
Mr. Karstadt is the founder of 1 TKD Consulting and owns the longest running ITF Taekwon-Do school in Arizona, Karstadt Taekwon-Do in Phoenix, AZ with his father Master David Karstadt. He has been training since 1984, earned his Black Belt at the age of 8 and is currently an internationally renown intstructor teaching the culture, discipline, leadership and business skills of Taekwon-Do in classes and seminars to Instructors around the world. He has been a member of eight U.S. Taekwon-Do Teams and has traveled to 14 different countries competing in Taekwon-Do. He has won numerous medals at the World Championships and in international competition, most notably winning the 2004 World Championships in South Korea with two gold medals and the Men’s Team All Around Trophy. Mr. Karstadt currently resides in uptown Phoenix, Arizona with his wife and three children. Mr. Karstadt can be contacted by e-mail at email@example.com