Last Sunday here in the U.S. we celebrated Mother’s Day. I was lucky enough to be able to spend time with my mother, grandmother, wife and sister who just a month ago had her first child.
It was nice to just sit around for the day with nothing to do but hang out with four generations of family. It was also interesting to notice all the different ways my sister, wife, mother and grandmother handled things.
One of the kids would come in the door covered in dirt from playing outside and there would be four different reactions. It reminded me of all the different parents at the Taekwon-Do school.
If you’re anything like me and you have kids training at your school, you have many, many opinions about parents (even your own).
There are those who just drop their kids and leave, those who overwhelm you with questions, those who worry too much, those who don’t care, those who think they know how you should teach, those who want you to fix their kids, those that have the nanny drop them off, and those who just want you to be the parent (and I know there’s more!).
They’re not all like this, but you know who these people are.
I figured out a long time ago that, to keep my sanity, the parents needed to be trained as well.
If you didn’t know, by having embraced Taekwon-Do as a way of life you have become an example for others to follow, an example of treating people with courtesy and respect, of living a life of integrity, of observing the tenets of Taekwon-Do.
As an instructor you set an example for parents of how to deal with kids, implementing discipline, developing their strengths, and producing leaders.
“Educate the young to produce heroic leaders.”
~General Choi, Hong Hi
If you are a parent, then you know that parenting is no easy task and everyone does it differently. There is no single, right way to parent but there are values and principles in Taekwon-Do that make a difference in people’s lives.
Have some compassion for all the parents you deal with, no matter how much of a pain in the ass they may appear to be.
Be a resource and example for them and you will make a difference in their life as well as the child’s.
And take a moment to tell your mother you love her… just because!
About the Author:
Mr. Karstadt is the founder of 1 TKD Consulting and owns the longest running ITF Taekwon-Do school in Arizona, Karstadt Taekwon-Do in Phoenix, AZ with his father Master David Karstadt. He has been training since 1984, earned his Black Belt at the age of 8 and is currently an internationally renown intstructor teaching the culture, discipline, leadership and business skills of Taekwon-Do in classes and seminars to Instructors around the world. He has been a member of eight U.S. Taekwon-Do Teams and has traveled to 14 different countries competing in Taekwon-Do. He has won numerous medals at the World Championships and in international competition, most notably winning the 2004 World Championships in South Korea with two gold medals and the Men’s Team All Around Trophy. Mr. Karstadt currently resides in uptown Phoenix, Arizona with his wife and three children. Mr. Karstadt can be contacted by e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org